Ok. Lets figure out what is wrong. You should start with first archive in the first post. Forget for a while about second one). In loopMidi you should make eight Lemur IN ports (from 0 to 7) and eight Lemur OUT ones. Then go to Lemur app on iPad, then Settings\More settings… Assign FROM’s to Lemur OUTs and TO’s to Lemur INs accordingly. So the first string would look like “MIDI 0 . FROM: Lemur OUT 0. TO: Lemur IN 0.” And the same way other lines.
Now there has to be activity in LoopMIDI \ “Total data” column on Lemur IN 3 Port while moving EQ dots in Lemur app on iPad. If not - check the firewall first! If all works you’d see things like on my picture with Lemur daemon and LoopMIDI I sent you. Give it a try and tell me how it’s going.
P.S. I forgot to say sometimes Lemur Daemon and LoopMIDI have to be restarted several times to work correctly. Anyway all Lemur Daemon ports should be black, not red.