hey, first of all please be kind and nice to everybody. I also understand your frustration, we all do!
Personally, i work very intensively with VST Connect (and the Performer APP) and yes there are some issues here and there, but the development guys are very kind and very helpfull over here! Not to mention all the other here in the forum!
I managed to work with VST Connect in a way that almost no other tool can do. If you need help to integrate it into your routing/ workflow let us know. I also integrated it in my starting Template/ Workflow and it is not really as VST Connet would set it up by itselfe, so it is for sure possible to have it integrated and have it work!
So just give us a detailed routung setup, and maybe explain your session template and I/we will be very happy to help you!
Even some test connections could be arranged.
As we germans say: “it never hurts be be nice in the first place”, please calm a bit down and lets talk about it and get it sorted 
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cheers