Hmmm…
I think you should separate things according to function, in your head at least. So Control Room in a sense sits ‘next to’ all of the mixer functions, and the outputs tab in the setup actually somewhat possibly overlaps.
The way I have my system set up is to route all tracks to groups, and those groups will be categorized according to “food groups”, i.e. dialog, adr, music, source music, hard fx, ambience etc. For deliverables though I send all of those subgroups to a set of output channels, but those output channels do NOT get physical outputs.
This way, conceptually, the output channels are things that I almost never touch. And I also use the output channels as sources to export from. I have my Full Mix bus (output), Mix Minus Narration, M&E, SFX, MUSIC etc… I select those when I do my export audio mixdown, and I also select those as inputs to tracks if I need to punch into a stem or something.
Now, Control Room for me sits “separately”. It gets the physical outputs and I’ve set it up so that I can easily switch sources feeding it (which in my case is definitely the Full Mix output, but also a dedicated DLG EDIT group that routes straight to my center speaker for true mono dialog editing…), but I can also easily switch the monitor setup. In my case I switch between a 5.1 output with bass monitoring etc, a 2.0 output, and a digital out to a headphone amp/crap speakers.
So, in other words, you don’t need to tie your mixer to your Control Room. Think of them as two separate pieces of equipment/software, where the CR can ‘tap’ the mixer for a signal if you want, and then also sent to different physical outputs. Each output configuration can have it’s own setup with inserts etc.
Did that help?
Or did I make things worse now…?