OK - I finally got this sorted out…
after an uninstall - I reinstalled the 3.0 64bit play and was prompted as to where to install the 32bit dll…
It defaulted to common files which did not work … I moved the dll to the steinberg VST folder and it shows up now …
of course it did not know where my Instruments and Samples were (that were on my Sample drive) so from the stand alone player you have to navigate and add them to it’s browser … just your basic pain in the ass…
sorry for the firedrill - but based on the response - we all would have died!